Have you ever heard of a so called ‘Houdini syndrome’? It’s typical to a male kind. Basically its sufferers are men who don’t want to get emotionally involved and soon after realising they are deep in emotions, they disappear like Houdini – a famous magician. They are also called ‘commitment phobes’. The thing is, they don’t usually realise they are ones of this kind and to make matters worse, nor do their women.
I used to date two of such men. One of them started approaching me not long after I had realised I did needed a relationship. Our first date was too chemical and I decided to slow him down a bit. Anyway he didn’t care about this at all – he took me to his flat. We were constantly kissing during this date, it was on one hand very magical, but on the other I knew this was going far too quickly. Then he unexpectedly started to avoid me. We eventually arranged a second date which was a never-ending nagging about going to my flat. I remember during that date he was overly mischievous as sometimes I felt literally offended by his remarks.
He also asked me a question whether I wanted a serious relationship or just a date. The question knocked me to the ground, I didn’t quite know what to say. I realised I didn’t want just a date, but some emotions as well, so I eventually chose a serious relationship, which was an exaggeration too. It was like telling him to marry me at the second date! Pretty confusing.
After that disastrous date he would avoid me even more. Then he texted me saying we didn’t match and disappeared like Houdini the magician. I was woesome, I really wanted a relationship with him and he simply gave it up. My heart was broken for half a year, I even considered a visit to a psychologist, but my heart and mind eventually got back on track. Now I know how FAIR he was that he didn’t get into that relationship which could only be a wash-out.
My last boyfriend wasn’t that fair, I wish he had asked me that question before we started dating, NOT after 3 months of an intense relationship…TO BE CONTINUED